Life & Becoming

Grief can change more than how you feel about loss. It can change how you experience time, make decisions, and decide what is truly worth your energy. After loss, ordinary choices can carry a deeper question: What if I don’t have time?

After the burial, the condolences end and the visitors go home. But for a child who has lost a parent, grief is only beginning. This is about what happens next: who provides care, protects their childhood, keeps them in school, and makes sure they are safe, heard and loved.

You can keep showing up, meeting deadlines, caring for others, and answering messages while quietly running on empty. But functioning does not mean you are okay. This article explores the hidden weight of emotional exhaustion, why rest is often postponed, and how to recognise when it is time to seek support. You do not have to collapse before your pain deserves care.

When someone is grieving or quietly struggling, “let me know if you need anything” may sound supportive, but real support often means noticing, showing up, and making help easier to receive.

Grief does not always look like sadness. Sometimes it looks like anger, emotional numbness, overworking, control, distance, fear of attachment, or guilt around feeling happy. This is a reflection on the quieter ways unresolved grief can shape how we live, love, and see ourselves.

My parents built a life shaped by love, sacrifice, perseverance, and family. After losing them both, I began to understand my mother’s struggles, the life they built together, and what it means to honour their legacy while leaving justice to God.

Many people carry grief in silence, telling the world they're "fine" while quietly navigating loss beneath the surface. This article explores why we suppress grief, how it can show up in everyday life, and why giving ourselves permission to acknowledge our emotions is an important step toward healing.

Losing the people we love changes more than our hearts. It changes how we see life, fear, faith, and the future. This personal reflection explores grief's quiet fears, the vulnerability that follows loss, and the hope found in God's constant presence.

Losing both of my parents transformed my understanding of grief, identity, and healing. This is the story of learning to protect my last spoon while rebuilding a life with purpose and hope.

Grief doesn't only follow death. Discover the many forms of grief, why some losses go unrecognized, and how greater grief literacy can help us better understand, support, and heal through life's many transitions.

There is no right way to remember someone you've lost. This personal reflection explores grief, continuing bonds, and the many ways love continues beyond loss.

After someone you love dies, there are moments when you wish the world would pause. Not forever, just long enough to catch your breath, make sense of what has happened, or simply exist without another demand being placed on you. But it doesn't stop. As I explore in Beyond "I'm Sorry": Understanding the Complexity of Grief, grief is far more than sadness. It quietly reshapes every part of life. Instead, your alarm goes off. Your phone buzzes. The bills arrive. Someone asks wha

Loss changes more than what we grieve. Discover the lessons loss teaches about living, finding purpose after loss, and embracing a more intentional, meaningful life.

Could grief be making you fear the worst about your health? After losing both of my parents, I found myself caught in a cycle of symptom-checking, late-night Google searches, and fears that something was seriously wrong. In this article, I explore the connection between grief and health anxiety, how loss can affect the body, and the lessons I've learned about reassurance, self-compassion, and healing.

Father's Day after loss felt especially heavy this year. Instead of spending the day alone with my grief, I joined Refuge Network International's first Nairobi outreach, where unexpected moments of kindness, connection, and service reminded me that healing and purpose can coexist.

Father's Day looks different when your father is no longer here. This personal reflection explores grief, remembrance, and the enduring love that continues to shape a daughter's life long after loss.

What happens when grief begins before a loss has even occurred? Anticipatory grief is the emotional experience of mourning what has not yet happened. Through my personal journey after losing my father, I explore the fears, emotions, and challenges that come with living in the shadow of a future loss.

Grief is often mistaken for sadness, associated with tears, mourning, and immediate pain after a loss. However, grief is far more complex. It continues to influence how we remember, love, and navigate life long after condolences fade. As I explore in Grief and Everyday Life: When the World Doesn't Pause, grief doesn't simply affect our emotions. It quietly reshapes how we move through ordinary days. When I mention my parents have passed away, responses like "I'm so sorry" oft

Celebrations often carry more than joy. They can also remind us of the people we wish were still here to share them. In Empty Chairs and Lasting Love, I reflect on how grief shows up during milestones, holidays, and family gatherings, and how love continues to have a place at the table long after loss.

Sometimes, purpose does not come wrapped in a neat package or a clear plan. It sneaks in quietly, shaped by moments we never asked for: loss, grief, survival, and healing. I never imagined the work I do now would become part of my life’s purpose. It wasn’t a goal I chased but something that found me through the hardest chapters of my life. How Life’s Unexpected Turns Shape Purpose Growing up, I pictured my future as something straightforward: a career, a family, a steady path